"Early pregnancy, the first trimester is unsettling, isn’t it? To be both the same person as before that positive pregnancy test, and not the same person at all. Never to be that person again. The experience changes you." - Jilly Clarke

Everyone talks about the glow. The joy. The tears when you see that second line.

But no one really prepares you for what it’s like when the reality doesn’t match the picture.

What if you don’t feel instantly excited?

What if you’re bone-tired, a bit queasy, and quietly thinking, what have I done?

That doesn’t make you ungrateful. It doesn’t mean you don’t want this.

It means you’re a person whose body and brain have just been thrown into the deep end — and you’re still finding your footing.

The shock of early pregnancy

Even when it’s planned, early pregnancy can feel like it’s happening faster than you can process.

One week you’re living your normal life; the next you’re googling what you can eat, when to book an appointment, and why your jeans already feel tight. You’re dizzy, emotional, exhausted, hungry and nauseous. Sometimes all before lunchtime.

And while you might not fully understand what’s happening inside you yet, your body’s already working around the clock. Blood volume increases. Your heart rate shifts. Organs move. Your entire system reorganises itself to build and protect something you can’t even see.

It’s no wonder you feel off-balance.

When excitement of the first trimester of pregnancy doesn’t come easily

You might have imagined you’d feel instantly different. Connected. Maternal.

But often, it’s not like that at all.

You might still be waiting for your first scan, still keeping it quiet, still half-believing the test could somehow be wrong. You’re carrying enormous news that you often don't want to share widely — which makes it feel strangely unreal.

Add the exhaustion, nausea and hormone chaos, and excitement doesn’t stand a chance.

I remember feeling exactly like that in my first pregnancy.

It was all I’d ever wanted — yet I also felt unsure what I’d done. Guilty, even. Guilty that our lives were about to change. Guilty for not feeling purely happy when I thought I should.

No one tells you that both can be true at once. That you can love the idea of what’s coming and still grieve the simplicity of what you had. That you can want the baby and still be terrified by how different everything will be.

That mix of emotions isn’t a sign of doubt that you'll be a good parent, that this is what you want — it’s just what adjustment looks like in the real world.

When your mind can’t keep up with your body - early pregnancy changes

You might feel like your body’s sprinted ahead and your mind’s still tying its shoelaces.

One part of you is physically doing pregnancy — the symptoms, the tests, the constant change — while another part is still trying to understand that this is really happening.

Early pregnancy and the first trimester is unsettling, isn’t it? To be both the same person as before that positive pregnancy test, and not the same person at all. Never to be that person again. The experience changes you.

You can know you’re pregnant and still feel like it hasn’t landed. You can want the baby and still feel thrown. You can wake up calm one day and on the edge of tears the next, and it doesn’t mean anything bad about you.

It just means your body and mind are moving at different speeds right now. They’ll catch up with each other eventually.

Finding your footing again - leaning into the first trimester

You don’t need a perfect routine or a long list of pregnancy “must-dos.” What helps most right now are small, simple things that make your body feel safe and your mind feel less scrambled.

• Breathe slowly when you notice you’re holding your breath. A long exhale tells your body it’s not in danger, that you're safe.

• Eat something small and plain before you get too hungry. It keeps your blood sugar steady and can calm nausea and anxiety.

• Step outside once a day, even for a few minutes. Fresh air and daylight help your body find its rhythm again. Movement helps that struggling digestive system.

• Lower your expectations. You don’t need to be productive or “glowing.” Growing a placenta is plenty.

Tiny, consistent kindnesses do far more for you right now than any elaborate plan.

When early pregnancy feels heavier than that

If you can’t shake the low mood, or if anxiety keeps creeping in, please don’t wait it out. You can speak to your GP, midwife, or a perinatal mental health team — even before your first appointment.

Feeling like this doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means your body and mind need a bit more support to get through this part. And that’s okay. That’s what help is there for.

You don’t have to wait until the second trimester to feel better

A lot of people assume the first trimester is just something to survive — that it’s “too early” to learn, plan or prepare.

But the more you understand what’s happening right now, the easier the rest of pregnancy feels.

That’s why I created the CubCare First Trimester Course: calm, practical guidance for when everything still feels new and a bit unreal. It helps you understand your body, your emotions and your next steps — without the overwhelm.

Because this isn’t the waiting room before real pregnancy begins.

This is pregnancy. And you deserve to feel supported in it.

Explore the CubCare First Trimester Course

Because sometimes, the smallest investment makes the biggest difference.

The CubCare First Trimester Course is designed to be an easy yes — just £11, accessible from anywhere, and full of genuinely useful support.

You don’t need to spend hundreds to feel steady and informed.

You just need the right information, at the right time — calm, clear guidance that helps you understand your body, your emotions, and what’s normal in these first weeks.

It’s one of the best investments you can make at the very start — in knowledge, in confidence, and in yourself.

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