Birth Story Series – Rachel’s positive home birth with her 2nd daughter
Surprise baby girl Anna
Due date 25 Sep 2023
Arrived 28 Sep 2023 at 1.47am
Planned and actual home birth on dry land
Hypnobirthing, comb, positive affirmations.
After a protracted labour with my first baby in a midwife led unit that was relaxing but ended in a Kiwi* delivery, I had a birth afterthoughts debrief where the midwife didn’t rule out a homebirth for my second baby. So, I was really keen to use hypnobirthing again and be more in control for my second birth. I did Jilly’s hypnobirthing and active birth classes with both of my pregnancies.
I wanted to get downstairs and when I had a very strong contraction on the stairs I realised the contractions changed to the urge to push. I told my husband that the baby was coming quickly. I kept telling myself that each surge brought me closer to meeting my baby and how the contractions couldn’t be stronger than me as they were me.
Not the plan but in control!
I got scared because the midwife wasn’t there and then I realised I didn’t want to have the baby literally into the toilet. So I hovered and my husband squeezed into our tiny loo to be with me.
The baby started crowning and out came head just as the midwife called at 1.45am to say she was at our door. We shouted her through just as my husband caught our baby at 1.47am, as slippery as she was. We stayed in the toilet so I could sit and rest for a few minutes. I held our new baby girl in a tiny towel amazed at how I had just birthed her completely in control and with barely any pain.
I then went back to the lounge to deliver the placenta and have a few stitches. I was in utter disbelief that it had all gone just as I hoped for and was so fast after how long and how stuck I felt in pushing in my first birth.
This definitely gave me closure on my first birth and made me realise if I can do birth this way, I can do anything.
I was worried at how bad the ring of fire would hurt, as I was numbed locally the first time, but actually whilst it was very stingy, it was fine, the stitches were worse.
My husband was incredibly calm, supported me and listened to my requests and instructions, allowing me to just stay in the zone. He assured me he wouldn’t let the baby go in the toilet. And seemed fine that it was all happening before the midwife arrived.
We opted not to get paramedics when it all got very fast as we figured the midwife would arrive before they would anyway. The second midwife arrived 15 minutes after the birth. They stayed with us until about 5am and then we went up to our own bed.
I am so thankful that the Lister home birth midwife team were available for me to have a home birth, and were there to reassure us after the birth and check me and my little girl over. I know I made the right decision to stay home.
I would have a homebirth again and recommend it for a subsequent birth to someone else, as the awareness and confidence I had from my first birth allowed me to know what stage we were at and not panic.
The hypnobirthing techniques are so powerful if you can use them and trust in them to work for you. The power of BRAIN and making informed decisions that feel right really helped me be in control this time.